One never understands how things go
time and tide do sway not only every Relation also the feelings associated to it .
In any relation involving love and care ...deep emotions which maybe a friend to friend. mother to daughter,
Husband wife or "any" .After a particular time it does not remains as intact as it was once,Things do change with the decisions you take in your life as it comes to you or you had to take .
Life is like a flowing river with new obstacles and challanges for you every time and you need to react according to it .If you don't.. you will be the one who lags behind and regret for the decisions you didn't made that time or the changes you did not accept .You always have to analyse yourself at every point and choose the correct and appropriate accordingly .But not every relation you are bound to...accepts that change
How much ever dear and near it may be to you..... . Mostly they don't ,They loved you and liked you as you were before ,even small changes in you further enhance a great change in them.It does not matter how much ever you did support the same person ,that was actually your problem "your attitude" and" your way of feeling thingS" NOT HIS.....in short
"You can never expect to someone react to things positively and in accordance to your happiness as you would.....
" Even from ones you love and who are important part of your life...though a true and rational fact... we all know everyone is diffrent but..
You also can not expect to "understand" from"" the ones you love"" to atleast act in a more positive way and indiffrent from people not important to you..It hurts even more when they are bothered about others more...sad but true for most of us....
""You had been or you will always be adjustable because it is your nature ....but the other person would'nt be because it's not his "he or she will never change or accept the change if have to accept would never expect it positively making you feel good instead just gulf it ...making it a point to make you realize same thing again and again "" .
It was you who did expect the other person not to do things like you want.It was only and only you who gave the other person freedom ,not him. Anyhow here "any" has a very important
meaning attached to it .A small
thing if correct remain the same even if integrated or differentiated .However
mentioning more concisely and talking in
particular “The more is the depth of a innolvation you are in relation with someone...... more correct and always right person
appears to you.
One gets associated with
the feelings the emotions of the
other person so badly it is next to impossible for him to
identify situation and act correctly infact
the grief of the other person appears as the ultimate truth and every
else thing appears falsified.
We all
face such situation throughout our lifespan but are unable to recognize them at
every point. Judging is not a gift which is granted to all of you and people
like me too sensitive .Who hate being judged and want to live life their own
way have always hated doing same for other people .It does hurt to them and me but
one does not have a choice here it is the only way surviving in cynical world
of white sharks, cockroaches, fishes big and small and dangerous creatures
It is too
late when we collaborately think of everything at once putting everything in a
single frame and then looking forward to facts . Sometimes one is in like a
person in the middle of situation where acting like a child he is intended to
choose more right or either repels the more wrong thing rather than thinking
rationally and practically about it. This is only learned from experience as
time flows and people around you change or even if they don’t change things
happening around them or to them makes you focus towards a concrete point where
the flashily strong light of reality opens your eyes broadens the horizons of
your mind to the situation and then you analyze what actually was happening
around you.
Maybe earlier
without doubt you did choose the more
correct more appropriate the person and left behind for someone hated him like anything for his deeds .without a question he or she was a devil .But here we just fail to
consider the fact that “The person “you
choose was he always correct ….?
Didn’t he
selfishly choose to put you into a situation like that .If he was so correct
and loved you the same way you did or thought for you at the first place
considering your happiness to be supreme why didn’t he analytically took steps towards it why didn’t
he consider avoiding the situation at first place for bestowing
you happiness and a peaceful life .
If it did not
stroke him or her who ever the person is or was not...to initially take the
charge of situation ..why didn' after looking towards your problems he happened to did something regarding this....wasn't it better if he would have stopped thing before the everything imprinted a deepened and sharpened effect on your
heart
It is always too late when you recognize
the fact that it was the inner weakness that let it happen to him as well as
you .Many of us would have been told things like “ ignore bad things thinking
that they are actually not worse “and let them continue happen to you two .
Anyhow you can't change people around you as let me tell you a fact mostly true......"things important to you bothering you would never strike their mind ....and never will they are too lost in their own world and your feelings sound them as stupid insecurity of ours.....quite funny isn't it"
Hmm.....it is better to change yourself....be a little more selfish ...listen to everyone ..but do only things you like ..you love and beleive me it is most stupid to waste your energy on people .Let them do what they want and you do what you want..mostly and all time avoiding situations with people who you know will never change ...
If you want to live peacefully ,focusing on your own happiness and person who truly care for you can be the ultimate solution .....a very good quote for you and me would here be
"Do good for yourself and expect least from others"....
………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….TThe
Harsh World
